Intimidation

There are lots of single, professional women in this city. By virtue of my profession alone, I’ve been told that I’m intimidating to “the average guy.” I know people often use words without fully understanding the meaning so I decided to explore this so-called intimidation starting with the source. According to www.dictionary.com, intimidation means:

1) to make timid; fill with fear. (I laughed just reading this one. I’m not even five foot tall. If I can make a grown man feel like this, he’s definitely not the man for me.)
2) to overawe or cow, as through the force of personality or by superior display of wealth, talent, etc. (Now, I will admit that I have what can be described as a strong personality. Not one, however, that would overshadow all of my other awesome qualities. As for the superior display of wealth, I rent and I drive an economy car.)
3) to force into or deter from some action by inducing fear: to intimidate a voter into staying away from the polls. (This may be what people mean when they speak of me as intimidating. Apparently, I’m chasing men away from my voting booth. HA!)

No seriously. The real source of this so-called intimidation is insecurity. I think we are all aware of the meaning of that word. Any man who is not fully comfortable with himself and where he is in life, is never going to be able to compliment a woman who is. Because I am a whole person who is not interested in a partner to complete me but instead someone who compliments, supports and loves me, I don’t need a man around to fill some empty void. Further, being a professional woman doesn’t mean taking on the role of a man. Stopping this tangent before I further digress by concluding, there is nothing complimentary about insecurity. So if by intimidating you mean that I shine a light on his innermost insecurities, so be it.
My resolve: If I’m intimidating the men by my profession, intellect, beauty (*wink*) or personality…then the intimidated ones can kick rocks! As always, your thoughts…

I am,
Single in atl