Guest Blogger: Single From a Married Woman's Perspective

To Be Or Not To Be……SINGLE!!!!

Being single has such a bad stigma that many people would prefer to be in a sub par relationship then to be successfully alone. The following scenario is a perfect example.

A successful girl moves to the city to focus on reaching her professional goals. When she goes back to visit her hometown, she comes across an old sweetheart and they pick up where they left off. Even though she is quickly progressing toward her professional goals, he has not made much progress since they last dated because of his troubles with the law. The relationship moves at the speed of lightning and within six months, she is engaged to be married and pregnant with his child.

Now present day, girl is still slowly moving toward her professional goals, but the guy is more interested in hanging out and having fun (the same fun which led to his abovementioned mishaps) which leaves the responsibilities of their adult life on her. Friends and family (even his family) have noticed this downward trend and try to intervene to no avail. So when is enough, enough? At what point does one make the decision to be or not to be single?

Why are women so afraid of being single and/or alone? I think Madea said it best, “I can do bad all by myself.” Relationships that are in good standing are hard enough work, why would anybody want to be in a one-sided relationship? Is it the sex? Is there really any head-rocking, body-knocking sex that could make you stay in a stagnant relationship? If that’s the case, I would condone a “booty-call!” ***I don’t necessarily agree with that, but anything is better then the above circumstance***

Could it be the companionship? Are women so needy for someone to just be there that we let our guard down too quickly just to have a warm body there? Once again, a “Booty Call” would be better then someone hanging around and bringing you down!

Or is it just plain denial? When you are blinded by “love”, is it really that hard to see when a person is holding you back whether it’s intentionally or inadvertently?

All I have to say is that true love is hard work, but it makes it worth the while when your partner is willing to meet you half way. So, each person must uplift their partner and expect/demand for the same respect. Until women realize it’s okay to be single instead of an inferior relationship, many of those men will continue to do the same thing instead of stepping up to the plate to take care of business. So ladies, don’t settle just for the sake of being with someone. Until next time…